The Power of Self Reflection with The holistic Leaders.

WHY REFLECTIONS ARE BETTER THAN RESOLUTIONS

Do you make resolutions every January?

A belly full of wine and cheese, sleepy from Christmas consumption, tired of your old ways and ready for “New Year, New You”?

Sounds familiar to so many and a scene I know only too well myself.

Now, I am a coach, so sure look-it, I love setting goals, creating objectives and aligning with my next manifestation, HOWEVER...I have noticed a lot over the years around why sometimes this works and more often... it doesn’t.

A big piece of why this is, is that we write our list of “Who I will be” in the New Year, without reflection on “Who I have been" in the year gone by.

This time of year can illicit mixed feelings of pride, regret, joy, confusion and even excitement as we wish to “close the door” on the year gone by so it’s so important to do so with love, compassion and admiration. Look back. Notice. Celebrate.

We don’t celebrate our lives enough.

Whether this is business related or a personal milestone, we so often say “NEXT” without full appreciation for what we have achieved or indeed overcome. I have to CONSTANTLY remind myself and my clients to stop and reflect at a job well done.

We are Holistic Beings. We are not just our titles: Director, Coach, Mother, Father, Irish, etc. We are our Body, Our Minds, Our Souls... and when we navigate our lives honouring all the elements of ourselves, the multiple aspects of our lives become fuller, amplified and more expanded.

Today, I want to share with you a tool that I myself and also my clients will be using this year.

The aim of asking you to do this is to start 2024, feeling clear about your devotion to your Body, Mind, Soul and Business/Career. When we move through life in devotion to ourselves, it hits differently to a list of RESOLUTIONS of deprivation, of “should’s” “musts” and “have to’s”.

It’s a subtle energetic shift, but to say for example, “I choose to move my body because I love myself and want a healthy body is different to “I HAVE TO go to the gym 5 times this week because I overindulged.”

Grab a cuppa, light a candle, carve out some time. Time spent on this now, will save you days/ weeks/months in 2024 using the power of reflections before resolutions.

A Look Back on 2023

• Remember this time last year.. What were you doing?

• As you looked ahead into 2023 did you have any goals that you'd set yourself? (Refer to your last year's journals/ diaries to see how you got on!).

• What did you want 2023 to be all about for you?

• If this year was a book, what would the title be? What would the monthly chapters be called? (Do a monthly review. Define the Highlights/ lowlights of each month. Use your phone/ calendar/ Journal/ camera role to help.

What were the 3 most defining positive events of the year. How did they shape you?

• What were the 3 most defining low points of the year? How did they shape you? (Also, well done, you got through them!)

• What was the biggest risk you took this year? How did it pay off?

• Is there anywhere in your life this year where you had a shift in attitude that has made a big difference?

What has been the most unexpected thing about this year?

• What 3 great lessons have you learned from this year?

• What 3 areas of personal development have you had?

• If you could do things again last year, I would do these three things differently:

• Smartest decision you made last ear:

• One sentence that sums up this past year:

HELLO 2024

Now that you have reflected on 2023, I would like you to turn your sights to the future and get clear on what you want this next year to be all about. So, in a nutshell: setting your intentions, Body, Mind, Soul and Business/Career.

What you want to experience, what you want to happen and above all, how you want to feel, i.e. successful, confident, secure, healthy, fulfilled. loved.

PERSONAL

What do you want to fill 2024 with?

• Based on who you are now, which habits, characteristics and actions can take you there?

What did you enjoy doing in 2023 that you want to do more of in 2024?

• What else do you want to spend your time doing in 2024?

• Are there new things you want to try in 2024?

• Is there anything you want to learn to do?

• What things are you going to do simply because they make you happy?

• Are there any projects you'd like to do or hobbies you'd like to start?

• Are there an changes vou want to make to vour life in 2024?

BUSINESS/ CAREER

• What do you want to earn next year? (Yes. Go there)
  What else would you like to achieve next year in your Business/ career? (Set up a new area, hire a team, receive invitations to speak on a podcast?)

• Are there any challenges you'd like to take on this year?

• Are there any changes you want to make to your work life in 2024?

SETTING YOUR INTENTION FOR 2024

• Looking at what you've written above, what theme do you see emerging? What do you want to make 2024 all about?

YOUR COMMITMENT TO YOURSELF

• Three things I choose to do less of in the next year are:

• Three things I choose to do more of in the next year are:

• Three things I choose to stop completely doing in the next year are:

• Three reasons I didn't achieve my goals from this past year are:

• Three goals I want to achieve this next year are:

• Three reasons why I want to achieve these goals are:

• If I was showing my business that it is loved... what would I be doing daily?

• If I was showing my body that it is loved... what would I commit/ dedicate to?

• If I was showing my soul that it is loved, how would I do this?

• If I was showing my mind that it is loved, what would I change in my behaviours?

One year from right now, I want to my ideal day to look like this:

When we spend a little time reflecting, we get to move towards our futures with radical honesty, clarity and wisdom from what has gone before. We eliminate the guess work when we reflect on our patterns, behaviours and habits, both 'good' and 'bad'. This is not a time for self-flagellation but rather having a good sit down with yourself to see how you want to navigate the coming year

Wishing you a lovely end to 2023, I hope you enjoy this process of reflection and celebration and you can find me over @the.holistic.leaders it you are keen to connect

Shell x